Author: Olly

  • End of things

    I actually wrote this three years later than the date suggests – I have done this on purpose so that this is documented but not initially found or maybe never found. Its here though.

    So I have just come out of a 3 year relationship with a wonderful girl. I won’t mention her real name cos ya know, search engines n stuff.

    We met on Bumble and she stood out as we had actually briefly interacted about ten years prior to that. We met, we got on, one thing lead to another and before you know it we were in each others lives.

    During that first year of us knowing each other, I was a bit dishonest about the fact I was still speaking to and going on a few dates with other people after we had said we werent going to do that. I shouldnt have lied, and whereas in the big picture this is insignificant it was little things like this over the 3 years we were together that kind of eroded all the trust.

    Anyway, we sorted that initial thing out and then carried on. We had lots of lovely memories, did loads of cool stuff, and things were mostly good. During this period the only mistakes I made really were keeping bits of info from her as when I learned the info the timing wouldn’t have been right (time of month etc) and by the time I would get round to saying something it would appear like id known ages and just been keeping it from her for no reason. It was very hard to know how to manage myself in this relationship at times.

    Then we tried to have a baby. It felt right at the time, but I soon got cold feet as I panicked thinking I would have to look after this baby all the time on my own as she needed so much staring at the wall time etc. I can’t apologise for how i felt at the time, but I am sorry if how this came out in the moment upset her.

    Then to be honest, things were great for a while aside from monthly hormonal issues – it would really mess her up each month and make all the little things I mentioned accumulate into this huge thing and WW3 would erupt for literally no reason.

    My circumstances changed quite a bit, and this made planning for the future tough and my focus was shifted as it involved my children. She wasnt able to see past this and wasnt happy with me just wanting to exist for a bit and stop constantly trying to plan things and think of the next thing and the next thing. I wanted to just be in the moment, and pause, and live life here and now. Not in 3-5 years time.

    So, I am 42 years old and I am on my own again.

    I have my dogs, my kids my mum and my friends. Oh, and my land rover.

    It could be worse.

  • Commercial Support Services – Spam Calls to Register My Commercial Meter?

    I have moved my business premises again, and in order to inform customers, friends and colleagues alike – I did a blog post about it on my company website. Additionally, I posted a link to the article on my business social media. I did all this for two reasons;

    1. I did it to inform people, and keep my business blog and socials up to date
    2. I also did it because that’s also what we did when we moved into an older office of ours, and it was at that point we got targeted by “sales brokers” for commercial energy.

    It’s like they scour Twitter and stuff for “moved office” and things like that… Anyway, I posted it all and then got on with my life…

    A day or so later, I got this email from my PA service;

    Oh deary deary me.

    I called them, obviously, and I got the SAME spiel as I did when I first made contact with the broker last time.

    • Emergency rates
    • Not on the best pricing
    • bla bla

    I didnt give them ANY meter references, I didnt even confirm my exact location and yet they were able to magically find my meter and told me they were able to save me money. The chap I spoke to (forget his name, but he was a cocky shitbag) could only go over gas and not electricity, but we can only assume where the conversation would have gone if I had continued to feed them fase info.

    Now, I am not suggesting they are SCAMMERS as such, but like we have covered before in other (currently deleted) blog posts, its their wording, approach and sales tactics that are scummy. They scour the web for anyone moving a commercial business and jump on them to try and hopefully catch someone off guard and steal the energy contract over to one of their mates energy businesses.

    My advice to you if you have been contacted by someone like this is do your OWN homework, look these businesses up, do they look legitimate? Do their websites look legitimate? google their business name and check reviews;

    Tip: Often these kind of shady brokers use really generic names, so that when you search for them you dont find anything. EG Commercial Support Services is so generic, and searching for that on its own doesn’t find anything bad – but if you wrap it in speech marks and add SCAM or SPAM to the end of the search query, you find lots;

    And as always, be scam wise! Be on guard!

    If you havent expected the call, then assume they are up to no good and hang up.

    There is no meter registration department, commercial energy works pretty much the same as domestic and when you move house you dont take a contract off the first scam call you get in your new home, do you?

    Please comment below if you have got anything like this yourselves.

    Share this article with your connections so they know not to fall victim to these scummers.

  • Free UK Link Bio Page System – Linktree Clone

    OK, so if you’re like me you dont like to have silly usernames on stuff. Olly23o2869786 isn’t an easily rememberable username for a twitter account, for example. So when I went on a popular Bio page creator and couldn’t get anything like the username I wanted – I decided to make my own link bio service.

    Thats what you would have done too, right?

    Anyway while I was eating my breakfast I found a script, thought of a name and boom – LinkVine was born.

    I also added some domains I had laying about on there too, and bought a few more for shits and grins.

    Full domain list;

    • linkvine.uk
    • linkpile.uk
    • lnkdn.uk
    • lnkz.uk
    • freelinkdirectory.co.uk
    • afol.uk
    • cruisesites.co.uk
    • maxxd.uk
    • bizlinks.uk

    More coming soon!

    Got a spare domain you wanna keep but dont use? Let me know and add to the system! 🙂

     

  • Are you Happy?

    Happiness.

    Yes, its the first word in a dance song released in 2001 that still gives me goosebumps when I hear it. It’s also something that some of us spend our entire lives in the pursuit of.

    A lot of the books and podcasts I listen to talk about happiness and all of them come to the same conclusion. Happiness is something we are in full control of. It isn’t something earned or attained by going through steps or achieving “things” – its a state of mind that we choose to be in, or not.

    We are 100% responsible for our own happiness.

    Life isn’t cruel or unfair to us.

    We allow the pressures of “life” to influence our moods and feelings, which often materialises as feelings of unhappiness & sadness.

    However, accepting that “Life” and “Happiness” are things we control isn’t easy – we dont like to admit that the bad situation we are in is our fault. Sure, a kid doesn’t ask to be abused, or a wife doesn’t ask to be beaten up – but in many negative situations, the victim often has options but we cling onto things hoping that people will change.

    Instead, we put up with the situation, the relationship, whatever – and it’s usually due to one reason.

    The sunk cost fallacy.

    Basically, as humans, if we have invested a lot of time or money into “something” – then we dont want to let it go. Whether that’s moving from iPhone to Android, or getting out of a Toxic marriage – if we have dedicated £1000’s or decades to the “thing” then we feel that we have to stick with it, even if it’s making us miserable deep down. We all do it, with memberships, relationships, habits, rituals.

    Being human is hard sometimes.

    Choose happiness. Don’t carry negativity – its heavy.